Feminism, we’re talking about feminism. I think we all have our own definition of feminism (hello- “a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes”). Erin and I are writing this post together, we want to cover as many bases as possible.
Here I go, my partner does not consider himself a feminist. I had to break it to him (not so gently) that you don’t have to be a girl to be a feminist. He didn’t believe me. Our society has conditioned us to believe that feminism has to be packaged as a “female” and as the most radical version of itself (ie burning bras, protesting equality in the nude on a park bench). But actually feminism (should) include everyone. People like my boyfriend are clearly afraid of being associated with that extreme portrayal of feminism that the media loves to show and I can understand why, but it’s a fear you have to get over.
So, the other day (International Women’s Day to be specific), I was reading the comments section of a post (always a terrible idea) and was so frustrated by the posts by other women who do not seem to understand what feminism is! In their confusion they end up taking it out on other women and angrily typing things like “ I LOVE BEING A HOUSEWIFE” and “ I love doing things for my husband”, then concluding that that is why they are not feminists. Here’s the deal. Feminism allows you to do that. It allows you to have the choice to stay home or go to work and there is nothing wrong with being a housewife! No one is attacking you for doing that. The point is, is that everyone should feel free to pursue whatever they want in life, and that is what feminism aims to do. Feminism wants everyone to be equal, so as a woman I can become a doctor and make the same amount of money as any other doctor would. If I wanted to be a welder, I can be and make the same wages as everyone in that field. Feminism allows for men and women and gender fluid individuals to come together and have equal opportunities. It allows for women to remain as housewives if they choose to or for dads to have that same opportunity. But that is the difference now, women have the CHOICE.
In addition, the idea of feminists being man- hating is ridiculous. It is not a thing. I love men. I would like to date men (where you at hot men!). Feminism strives to be inclusive. If you are a man or woman who believes in equal rights for ALL genders, than you are a feminist, and I promise that makes you even hotter. It does not take away from your manliness and women it does not mean that you hate men or have to hate men. It means you believe in equality.
Erin and I had a world literature prof who was a feminist. She was amazing, gave the best lectures, and talked about feminism. She polled the class “How many of you would consider yourselves feminists?” Not everyone put up their hand, not even all the women put up their hands. I don’t want to be preachy and lecture those who didn’t put up their hands (BUT ACTUALLY how could you not put up your hand), because those people assumed that a feminist was a man hating lesbian vegan who sat around plotting the demise of white men (nothing wrong with this if that’s you- you do you girl), but that’s not what all feminists are. Feminism is about equality- stop getting hung up on the title. You know not to judge a book by its cover, so please stop judging feminism by the letters that make up such a powerful word.
We are so sick of arguing about what feminism is. We feel that we should be past this now. We need to all agree that feminism is inclusive and is about equality so we can move onto more pressing issues, like the wage gap, sexual assaults on campus, and breaking down gender stereotypes. Now that we have given you a definition, we hope that we can further talk about various feminist problems without having to come back to the problem of what feminism is. We can move on now!
In the end, all that matters is that you be kind to one another and spread the love.
- Erin and Kathleen or Kathleen and Erin